Friday, December 11, 2009

The Wrong Image "360"

Every single day I hear a woman at the tattoo shop say "I can't find a good man in atlanta"...or "there is a man shortage" but I look around and I see lots of men... If you can't keep a man or can't find a man, why do you point the blame at everyone but yourself? People love to make excuses for their actions...I make my daily rounds to all the social netwerks before I start tattooing each day...myspace is a graveyard, all you see is "booty" spots, hoe type photos... We all want attention at times (male & female) but what type of people you think you will attract if your "ass" is in the picture? I'm 100% sure he cares less about what's your mind & soul is about.. Be careful of the "MESSAGE" you send the masses...males are visual beings....and the energy you put out will be that same energy you get in return... Which goes back to another quote "all men think about is sex!" can you blame him? Look at the words you are using online, look at the photos you use to express yourself with...go to Twitter, you see young woman start sex trending topics, but get pissed off when the men THINK their hoes...I don't judge others so I wouldn't call them out their name, but let's me honest is the artform of being a "LADY" died?how can man be a "gentleman" if sex appeal seems like the FIRST thing you want people to see & read about you? Have males & females lose their connection with each other? Or is this a sexual revolution we all need to get use to? Times are changing... And maybe I'm just old school.. But damn I miss "ladies" for the 70s, 80s, & even the early 90s....expression is FREEDOM but don't get mad when you confuse people... I'm sure I have confused a lot of folks....the children are watching people.

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13 comments:

Writing Addict said...

Say that bro! I been preaching this for over a month on twitter (in my 140 character limited way). I am so sick of seeing ass, titties, and shit on twitter. Twitter? Lawd, its only 140 characters people. Women you need to wake up and take responsibility for your actions!

Mika said...

Wonderfully written sir. And I 100% agree with you. great read =)

EeshBeesh said...

Good one! And everyone wants to be a model..the REAL models don't have ass shots all throughout their portfolios lol First impressions are definitely lasting ones. YOur blogs r da besssst :-)

athinker said...

Agreed. I really think the entire "MTV generation" -- from start to finish, male to female -- are a bunch of unenlightened crass assholes.

Everyone seems so insecure and desperate to get noticed. As a woman, I understand the desire to stand out and feel sexually attractive, but I also believe that in public, at all times, I'm to try and carry myself like a lady.

Most women determine what's sexy by a man's reaction. Since the capri pant doesn't elicit the same reaction as the booty short, most chicks have gone the easiest route to get a response.

Hence, the repeated offenses of unladylike behavior. Ladies take responsibility for your actions, but men should as well. If you want to see more ladies in public stop leaping out of your seat when you see a "fat ass and some titties."

N.A. said...

What I think the problem is sooo many women don't know and weren't taught the difference between sexy and classy from sluty and trashy. Just because its low cute, high cut, tight and not enough fabric and men look @ you, it doesn't mean they like you, it just means it makes them hard! If u want respect from others u gotta respect yourself first! Noone is saying change who you are, just sayin,let your outside reflect the person you are on the inside. Peace (2 fingers n a thumb)

kajuana YO! said...

Indeed times are changing. For centuries, in this puritanically Christian, male-dominated, western society, women have been "taught" to suppress their sexuality. We are now starting to break free from those conventions and some men/women can't seem to comprehend it. Men have always been able to do as they pleased sexually, and women have had to be okay with that. It's 2010 already. I can't fathom the concept of "the hoe" when it comes to sexual identity. There is such a HUGE double standard. I don't know any hoes...however, I do know some women who CONFIDENTLY sex a lot. If you judge a woman as a "hoe" from a picture on a social networking site, then you may just need to check your superficiality. Who does that anyway. She may just a very open, sexual being. Hell in some African and tribes/cultures, women walk around naked all day. In Tantra and Hinduism, there is such as thing a the sacred prostitute....so on and so forth.

Just my interpretation, of the situation...

Miya Bailey said...

I can respect everyone point of view.... Times are changing...the point was "360" the ENERGY you put out you will ALWAYS get back in return... I'm not good or bad, positive or negative (balance is balance) I'm say don't get upset if you attract some negative female viewing pervs in your life by simple photos.... This is a very DANGEROUS world... If you tease a bone in front of a hungry dogs face, he might bite you... Just becareful please that's all I can ask of my sisters.... Ain't too many "dudes" getting raped in the streets... But I do know a few girls who were... And I hate pervs & and how some men view women....I just want yall to be SAFE,.. Expression is freedom....and energy travels 360

Anonymous said...

they only show ass, titties, and behave that way online because they KNOW men are gonna comment with DAMMMNNNNN! or show me more, when they probably have a mate at home they should be directing that attention to. but men will focus their attention on those images. it's cool to look, we are all human. men often say they like free spirits, open minded, women that are in touch with their sexuality, but then wanna call them out for showing it off. then they are the main ones trickin' off at the strip club and watching porn because of those images......... are those women concidered hoes too? they are doing what they feel they have to do. you feel that women on the internet with those images are portraying a hoe, you were drawn to that image enough to go on their page. you dont have to follow that person or converse with them. when the conversation turns into sex, men have the option to end the conversation but usually won't.......

MzDeDaze said...

Damn Miya, u are so right and with that said I will be changing my twitter default pic! I dont think Im lookin for attention but I do like my default pic cuz it was taken at a fun time, but I definitely understand what ur saying about perception... I thank you for the reminder of what others may think as oppose to what they really know about me! U are appreciated Miya!!

Much Love,
MzDeDaze

Shavon said...

THAT IS ON POINT MIYA!!! The words spoken by these girls that want to be called "Ladies" are delirious. Having a brain and straight mindset is not so boring ladies!!!!

Sole~Bound said...

damn.... I dont ck on ur blogs for a few days n looky here..looky here!!..children ARE watching, even when we smoke puff and drink and advertise THAT..just saying...dudes go on those networks and post WAAAY too much info in regards to the way they escape their reality, and how hard they'd be willing to protect theirs with (posting pics of their guns etc)... a smart man in my opinion is private quiet man.. as far as the ass pics,,, I was guilty before of posing a pic of me wearing skinny black jeans, leaning over by my homegirls brand new BMW, with my hand on my hip to the side (not even bent over), and the reaction I got on myspace was crazy ... but guess what... it gave me the attention of many more dudes who all of the sudden I was like, you fk with me, buy this book... orders went up, dudes I never spoke with or even knew were telling me they were ordering the book which only featured ONE of my poems and were asking when is mine coming out... my point ..sex sells,,, i used the pic to my advantage because men are such visual creatures they were so easily drawn in to my simple ass bait.. they bit..they responded..I took it down to not cause problems in my relationship, and ended up eventually shutting down the page, cause like the person above mentioned, a lot of men are just on there giving out the attention they should to the one they got in the crib!..
Just like you got so many male artist who use female models in a bangin ass bikini to draw in more dudes and nosey females to market their product..
If women cant find men is cause theyre not looking to find a man for real, they're looking to fll a void that cant be done with a man.. get right with yourself and the men will follow..not to knock you for posting your pics when you blaze, dont take it the wrong way, but just as you share that with us and is more "accepted" because you are an artists, and as such you get a "unspoken -free-pass-to -express-your-way-of achieving that -creativity", some out here could say thats just an excuse and you're sending out a wrong message to all the young aspiring artists out here on the come up.
Me personally, Im gonna post a classy pic of my hips and ass if I feel like it, cause Ive worked HARD to go from a size 24 to a size 12 and measure 34-29-45, and fk what anyone says, a classy pic doenst denfine me as a hoe, but it will be USED BY ME to control the attention I want, for my own selfish marketable purpose.. when broads do it for the wrong reason, I agree with you, it's sad and trashy... just like you dont see dudes gettin raped on the street you dont see many "Jean grae's " selling out, not enough tittie showing maybe? some people stand strong behind their ideas. And even tho you may not like mines on this one, I still respect yours Miya.
Sole'

Miya Bailey said...

Sole..I respect your point of view..SEX DO SELL...but you are selling a PRODUCT..I talking about 360 energy...I use sex to sell MY product also..so I understand business..Im talking about the women who complain about "men only look at me for sex" then get mad when a nigga treat them how they SEE them...its all goes back 360...they are not selling a book or any product..they are looking for attention and when they get it most of the time it to feed their egos, or to get comments...but get mad when they can't find the right man...not man want to see his womans ass on the internet entertaining other men...if its BUSINESS cool..you making money..but to give it away for FREE and STILL get labeled?? I rather get paid if dudes were going to label me...just my opinion :-)

Sole~Bound said...

lol...dudes label , females label... is all a race to see who wins the best title, which , if we're looking for anyone other than THE MOST HIGH to grant us that..we're already fked!.. I do see the difference now, I wasnt looking at it like you broke it down,cause I always had a hidden agenda when I thought about getting men's attention... I see you be looking all fresh putting yourself out there to bait them in too, hahaha... just dont worry about all those women who do it in that way or have those reactions, cause THEY arent they ones teaching YOUR daughters how to be fierce and strong, right? uh man, I read what u posted about your brother's book coming out, thats ws up, let us know so we can order it pls,I like your opinion, but I like your passion even more, because it shows ur head thinks about stuff and you care enough to even develop one in the first place! :)