Thursday, August 5, 2010

Lucky Man, Hoes, Ladies, & Atlanta

Looking at the Atlanta scene and relationships here I'm really a lucky man... I was having a deep convo with some of my friends and they were saying how they can't take any women in ATL serious because once you start liking a woman you find out a dude or even a friend also been with the same woman...that's crazy because it's like 21 women to 1 man here.... So how can you even run into the same woman another dude you know also been with? A smart man would never even get close to a woman in a sexual way who's on the same scene or same circle as himself..a wise man will never mix their different worlds....over and over I have seen it cause drama... Male egoes get hurt... The woman is embrassed because she's been with dudes on the same scene and they might know each other... The dudes find out because men usally talk more than women do.. Pride & egoes show their face and the woman is now labeled a "hoe" and every dude on the same scene know how's she having sex with everyone... Or less they think she is... because having sex with dudes who know each other is a "no no".... Yes it's a double standard and yes it might be wrong to think that way but you can't change the nature of man and their pride & ego... The double standard is REALITY... Wrong or right it's the world we live it... The reason I feel lucky is because I married a real LADY... The art of being a "Lady" is dying FAST in Atlanta...what happened to the good ole fashion southern girl who represents for her man, parents and family? Eveytime I heard stories in the streets I think how lucky I am to have one of the REAL ladies left... It's not easy for men out here in ATL some women ACT like ladies in public but later you found out their were hoes back home move to Atlanta for a fresh clean start to run from their past... Later to find out they have to compete for the best men who usally has a woman at home... They can't find a man because most men here are spoiled sexually by the easy women.... so she returns back to what she knows.. Which is using sex to get attention or to get sometime with a man... Maybe it's daddy issues, maybe it's low self esteem, maybe it's mental... I just know I'm a lucky man to have a wife like mine..for over 3 years my wife has won "Parent of the Year" at my son's school...she don't walk around town with dudes talking about her ... She don't have a crazy past....and she has always held me down even when we don't see eye to eye or I have messed up in some way.... She's a real Queen.... And I'm thankful I don't have to hear crazy shit about her in the streets...thank you, Tashia....I'm one lucky man





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23 comments:

Miss T said...

This was a good post. Not many men are paying women compliments these days either. I'm not offended at all by your post because I don't do those things and run in "circles". There are still some good southern women out there (like myself), but it's hard for us to weed through the junk too.

Hyjinx said...

Well said brother ! Gonna make sure alot of people read this cause trust me it's just not like that in ATL but it's like that here in Portland too !

Anonymous said...

Alot of the ladys are caught up in the whole black hollywood wave....Lately ive been meeting alot of models and singers...They come here chaseing that dream of becoming that,but not knowing that alot of men here prey on that weakness...They claim to be producers or take photos and end up sleeping with that circle of guys.. ive seen it happen alot

P.I.M.P.!! said...

Everything you stated was the truth. This type of "phenomena" is happening in more cities than Atlanta. I'm willing to bet that it has to do alot with self esteem. I think that alot of women carry themselves far differently these days. ...Some woman just don't have a model to look up to in terms of how to conduct themselves with men. I understand what you mean when you say "daddy issues" that's a HUGE part of it. Ever single parent household doesn't always have a strong woman in it. If you were raised in a household where mom was present but not "there", then who's going to teach you how to be a woman? I'm not knocking single mothers by any means because I'm one. What I am saying is that every woman sometimes isn't fortunate to have a strong female role model grown up. There are still some REAL women out here so hopefully your male counterparts won't give up the search

Lindsey Tattooed Barbie said...

That was lovely. She's a lucky woman as well.

Jetaime said...

Miya,

Trust me, this happens in Houston every day. Girls will smash the homies in a minute. I've been single for six months and have not had sex with anyone. It's a personal choice b/c so many ppl sleep around out here so like you said you're bound to sleep with someone from the same circle. I have never ran in any circle or been apart of a scene. Now I see why.

Great post.

Anonymous said...

yeees!!! u had me worried for a minute with some of ur old previous hinting-without-putting-too-much-out-there-posts! Im glad that you are so blessed because in the end, its not just ur ego that wins from knowing she got no bad rep on the streets or dudes talkin bout her, but your son! he grwos up KNOWING first hand! so he may pick the right one to duplicate his soul in her womb!, thats some real stuff u said..Im so happy for yall :)
Sole' :)

Sheniece said...

Respect. Honor. Dignity, and a bit of humility for what your actions may cause in the future aren't present when young ladies act out on Patron shots and Keeping up with the Kardashians'. The broken institution of family has plagued society and gets magnified with twitpics, blogs, and constant updates on facebook. Fast pased lifestyles create "fast ass girls". That's something Big Mama would say. Being a woman is hard enough and searching for your path in life picking up every Tom, Dick, and Harry spitting the same line only beget a soul shot to hell. Moving city to city on makes you Kat Stacks certified.

Miya Bailey said...

Thanks for the positive replies y'all....

Me said...

Hey - checked out a couple of posts on your site. Reading the pride that a man takes in his woman ranks up there with watching a father with his daughter as she chatters away and he listens intently. The action behind the words speaks volumes. Lovin the vibe here.

Melanie said...

Hey - checked out a couple of posts on your site. Reading the pride that a man takes in his woman ranks up there with watching a father with his daughter as she chatters away and he listens intently. The action behind the words speaks volumes. Lovin the vibe here.

EeshBeesh said...

WOW..this was really good! you have a beautiful family :-) A lot of women are trying to "come up" so they sleep around thinking they are going to find a sponsor. Guys sell them dreams then get tired of them and move on to the next one. Some girls genuinely like some of the guys and feel they are just taking care of "their man" then end up getting played in the end. That's why it's always important to set your standards in the beginning and you'll be able to weed out the ones who aren't for you...they won't have the time to wait for sex, and treat you how you should be treated.

Keep taking care of your Queen and she will continue to take care of her King. Black Love is beautiful...

Tat2king said...

nice write up Miya. So so true. My girl is an Atlanta born girl and everyone that knows her just tells me I got a good one. It's hard not to be really thankful of something like that.

Anonymous said...

This is why I'm actually glad to be moving away from Atlanta. I've been home for 2 yrs now since finishing college and this is not the Atlanta I grew up in and loved dearly.

I can't stand all these "industry" people who have invaded my dear city. I feel like I'm the last of a dying breed, because I'm not easily swayed by some negro dropping names and trying to get me to sleep with him straight out the gate (which is prob why I've been single the whole time). I'm not intrested in being put on a rotation for the sake of having a man. My grandma raised me old school, and I know b.s. when I see it.

These men and women in Atlanta now have no character, soul or substance. Glad to be throwing up the deuces and moving to a city where I might meet some real people.

Anonymous said...

You have a tresure Miya and that's rare these days, married or not. Treat her right or she may be a good girl gone bad. Most chicks in Atlanta aint shit! Half of them are lesbian, or should I say claim to be lesbians, but they are really bi sexual, fuckin & suckin any and everybody. When did we forget about HIV/AIDS???!

K*Mack said...

SMH. I'm glad I will be just visiting next week. Thing is, NYC is just as bad. Probably not AS bad, but not too far behind.

Anonymous said...

Not all women in Atlanta are like this there are some good single and married ones out there. This shit happens all over the US because mothers are not teaching their daughter to value themselves. So please blog readers don't think every female you meet in ATL is like this. There are still a great deal of us Southern woman out here who treat our "Kings" like they are suppose to be treated.

Anonymous said...

I blame in on Black Hollywood and the need to be seen and heard in Atlanta. The ratio of men to women is crazy like you said. So the females flock to men with some sort of status, married or not, they have no class and don't care. They just want a piece. You are right, it also has alot to do with their father's role in their lives, low self esteem( the main ones that go around talking shit about other people are the MAIN ones that can't stand to look at themselves in the mirror). They hide behind tons of makeup, weave, and clothing showing off their bodies.
I hear females brag all the time about having sex with someone else's man, like he actually wants THEM. But little do they know, they were just a piece of ass when that dude was going through something at home. Then they start catching feelings for him, and yes, he may feed her a few lies just to tell her what she wants to hear, but the majority of the time he is NOT gonna leave his woman, wife, or main chick for their desperate asses. They are just good for a nut, then he goes home to his woman.
Chicks need to wake up and realize that just because a dude fucks you, does not mean he loves you, wants to be in a relationship with you, likes your sex better, and it definitely does not mean that he does not love the one that he is with if he has somebody. Men just do dumb shit for the hell of it sometimes. And you hoes get played. So don't be mad, no one told you to open your legs! Your panties and clothes have to come off and you have to open your legs to have sex, otherwise it's rape! You control whether you have sex or not, just because you see a hard dick doesn't mean that you have to do anything with it. Have some class and self respect. Stop calling other females hoes when your confused ass is one. Make peace with yourself, get some counseling, do something because men do talk about your stankin asses! Your "secret" WILL be exposed eventually, it's a small world...

Anonymous said...

I blame in on Black Hollywood and the need to be seen and heard in Atlanta. The ratio of men to women is crazy like you said. So the females flock to men with some sort of status, married or not, they have no class and don't care. They just want a piece. You are right, it also has alot to do with their father's role in their lives, low self esteem( the main ones that go around talking shit about other people are the MAIN ones that can't stand to look at themselves in the mirror). They hide behind tons of makeup, weave, and clothing showing off their bodies.
I hear females brag all the time about having sex with someone else's man, like he actually wants THEM. But little do they know, they were just a piece of ass when that dude was going through something at home. Then they start catching feelings for him, and yes, he may feed her a few lies just to tell her what she wants to hear, but the majority of the time he is NOT gonna leave his woman, wife, or main chick for their desperate asses. They are just good for a nut, then he goes home to his woman.
Chicks need to wake up and realize that just because a dude fucks you, does not mean he loves you, wants to be in a relationship with you, likes your sex better, and it definitely does not mean that he does not love the one that he is with if he has somebody. Men just do dumb shit for the hell of it sometimes. And you hoes get played. So don't be mad, no one told you to open your legs! Your panties and clothes have to come off and you have to open your legs to have sex, otherwise it's rape! You control whether you have sex or not, just because you see a hard dick doesn't mean that you have to do anything with it. Have some class and self respect. Stop calling other females hoes when your confused ass is one. Make peace with yourself, get some counseling, do something because men do talk about your stankin asses! Your "secret" WILL be exposed eventually, it's a small world...

Nikita:Cool Kids Say Nik said...

Lots of women stray from the values and morals they were taught growing up because they feel that is what men want: A promiscuous girl that has been with any and everybody. When in reality that is the last thing a man wants, well long term anyway. I have lots of guy friends that talk about the guy they smashed the night before from the club and the girl they have been chasing after for months and trust me they get talked about in two different lights.

Anonymous said...

Truth, but most men aren't really checkin' for real ladies these days. If you don't look like it's gonna be easy, you gets no play from most dudes.
There are a lot of great women out there, but they're typically overlooked because they're not advertising themselves as easy to cut. Men don't wanna work to get a woman anymore. They have forgotten that a good woman is worth the work you put in to get her. So many men keep dealing with the easy chicks and when they find out she's looney they still go and have kids with her. By the time they learn their lesson, they have baggage that a smart woman doesn't want to deal with. So then it's harder to get lady, because he's been stuck in the hood rat mentality for too long.

Anonymous said...

Bruh, you are one lucky man, that's a gift from the Most High. That kind of woman is hard to find. I had the pleasure of seeing your wife in person and man, no disrespect, but she is fine as hell, she looks even better in person. So to have those qualities to go along with the looks makes her even more of a gem.

kristan said...

That was very well said! I think your so right about the "real ladies" out here. They are so hard to find. I try to tell the younger girls that I know to carry themselves with respect and you dont have to lower your standards, compromise your integrity or follow behind the women that are not carrying themselves well! Its really sad because its not only like that in Atlanta but here in Orlando & everywhere really!